All of us have the ability to form spontaneous connections and rather than acquiring a skillset and adding 'techniques' it’s about unlearning mental programs and beliefs that we’ve unknowingly subscribed to growing up in modern society, and letting go of control, rather than clinging on.
Simply put, this can seem far from easy - impossible in fact.
Avoiding the Antiguan man looking for “clean adult fun” (somewhow, we just don’t think they’d get on), we stumbled across someone looking for a date to a Calvin Harris gig and a 30-something self-confessed “optimistic nihilist”. Then, there’s the essay-length intro from a North London boy who’s quite frankly desperate to get out and do something with a ladyfriend of any description (so long as she’s CUTE).
Approaching someone stone-cold sober for the first time can be absolutely frightening and that is understandable.
It seems like something "other guys can do, but it's just not 'me'".
Not with rehearsed lines or obnoxious noises but with a genuine, authentic compliment and a desire to be honest, open and put out best foot forward, confidently expressing ourselves.
Connecting spontaneously with strangers in this way can be both really fun and exciting, and also build real confidence.
‘I’m open-minded and non-judgmental so have no issue with somebody who might have other commitments, what is important to me is that when we are together the time we share is inspiring and fun-filled!