In my conversations with widows and widowers they often say to me, “I just can’t imagine being with someone else” or “I can’t imagine holding someone else’s hand or going out on a date with someone else—it just seems weird and awkward and wrong.” I will say to you that it certainly does at first feel weird. When you date for a little while the nature of your humanity takes over and it feels OK to be holding someone else’s hand—and then it feels more than OK—it feels great!
I’m going to be blunt—it absolutely sucks to come home to an empty household. It is an hollow feeling to go on a business trip and know that you have no one to call to tell them that you arrived safely.
We get divorced, we break up and sometimes we lose our loved one in a more tragic way- to death. So the question we as men (and as a society) we have to ask is when is the right time to start dating?
About five months after my wife passed away I made very specific decisions about why I was ready to start dating.
There are niche dating sites that can help you find a relationship based on your age, interests and your status as a widow.