But I hate the idea of being Miss Manners for dating or anything else.
Amazingly, they found that simply having a phone nearby, without even checking it, can be detrimental to our attempts at interpersonal connection.…Przybylski and Weinstein asked pairs of strangers to discuss a moderately intimate topic…Some pairs engaged in their discussion with a nondescript cell phone nearby, whereas other pairs conversed while a pocket notebook lay nearby…The pairs who chatted in the presence of the cell phone reported lower relationship quality and less closeness.…[In a follow-up study] the presence of the cell phone had no effect on relationship quality, trust, and empathy, but only if the pair discussed the casual topic.
In contrast, there were significant differences if the topic was meaningful.
A section of the Love is Respect Web site spells out the basics of dating and healthy relationships to help young people searching for information figure out if their feelings of unease about their relationship are a sign of something more serious.“I think, as a field, we’ve gained traction in educating young people around physical abuse and verbal abuse, but how that translates over a digital platform is not something that young people have necessarily made the link to,” she said.
It is a form of dating abuse Ray-Jones feels her field is just beginning to understand, but they are “trying to be proactive with that messaging to help young people understand the risks and benefits of the digital medium.”In a 2007 Technology & Teen Dating Abuse Survey by Teenage Research Unlimited (TRU), teens reported that digital dating abuse “is a serious problem,” in which abusers try to control their partners with tactics like constant text messaging and cellphone calls, usually unbeknownst to their parents.
Social networking sites offer fertile ground for checking in on past relationships, and also for posting updates about current ones.