We had been good friends for many years, and when he told me he was newly single in spring 2013 we became intimate.
Things took an ugly turn, however, when I found myself unexpectedly throwing up in his bathroom, and ultimately learning that I was pregnant. He broke down in tears when I told him that I wanted to keep our baby, and he begged me to abort the child whose heartbeat was developing in rhythm with my own.
The old rhyme “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” certainly isn’t true.
Names, particularly if they are hurled at you by someone who claims to love you, can be terribly painful.
So when I talk about neediness or acting needy, I’m not recommending that you change how you behave or even try to avoid these actions. A much more empowering mindset is to simply not settle for what you don’t want and seek out what you do want… Also, I want to be clear that good, clear communication of what you want and what you don’t want is part of any good and healthy relationship.