One Xmas, my sister got airline tickets from her boyfriend for a trip to Italy.
I was impressed with the gift, but my sister had a lukewarm reaction.
You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start.
Carrying old baggage into a new relationship amounts to clutter.
The next time your SO talks about future living arrangements or career opportunities, pay close attention to see if you might be a part of that.