Dating and goodbye


" Although he still upholds the traditional evangelical view that sex is only for heterosexual marriage, Harris is questioning some of his assumptions when he wrote the book aged 21.

Namely the desire of parents to control the actions of their children; the notion that sexual mistakes are irreversible; and the "formulaic approach to relationships that somehow guarantees a happy outcome".

Now married, a father of three and a former megachurch pastor, Harris has recently called for reactions to his book. And I believe our diligent commitment to your ideas, and our 'failing to stay pure until marriage' has permanently damaged our relationship.

To this day, I cannot be intimate with my wife without feeling like I'm doing something wrong. "I know in many ways it's too late for me to fix something for people who feel like they've been hurt by the books," he said in the interview.

He has stopped short of a full blown apology, however, though he is going to begin studying the religious purity culture that influenced him as a young man, and is re-evaluating the book's impact.

Hard as it is to admit, I was that young, Christian girl who jumped on the bandwagon of kissing dating goodbye – except of course for dating Jesus.

I repressed my desire for dating and decided that courtship was the “holier” course of action for my life.

In the wake of its publication, churches held purity conferences, purity balls, and had teens take purity pledges.