And a bi-polar individual must have alot of support and be able to trust their significant other.
It's sounds to me like she's using avoidance to not face guilt feelings.
He said, ‘Your disorder’s ruining our relationship.
Some people with bipolar can be very proactive about their care, but this is usually after treatment has begun to help.
Part of what makes bipolar so scary is that it takes an enormous amount of work to manage, and "an enormous amount of work" is almost impossible for someone very ill with bipolar.
Ten years later, I published a book about our marriage, and have had a lot of sleepless nights and many lessons learned about loving someone with bipolar disorder. When your partner is diagnosed, you won't know what's coming.
Even if you understand mental illness (I was already struggling with anxiety and depression when my husband was diagnosed), you don't know what it's going to look like in a particular person.
This is coming from a bi-polar girl, so I'm not just talking out of my arse.