As a black woman, I often find myself asking how race and gender have affected my life.
Did the bartender just ignore me because he thinks I don't tip?
Similarly, Asian men’s dating profiles are consistently rated the lowest by single women using online dating sites. “Attractiveness is a very haphazard dish that can’t be boiled down to height or skin colour, but Asian men are told that regardless of what the idyllic mirepoix is or isn’t, we just don’t have the ingredients,” television host Eddie Huang recently wrote in the New York Times.“The structural emasculation of Asian men in all forms of media became a self-fulfilling prophecy that produced an actual abhorrence to Asian men in the real world.”Pop culture is a window into desire.
Consider the male Asian characters in movies you’ve seen in the last several years. When was the last time you saw a North American film where a desirable Asian man played the romantic lead and didn’t know martial arts?
During and after college, I have maintained a diverse group of friends and have had the good fortune to travel to various places in Asia including a two year stint in Korea and Taiwan, as well as less extensive periods in Hong Kong, Japan, and mainland China.