I keep dating abusive men


talked to the experts to clear up some of the most stubborn, and most dangerous, myths about intimate partner violence. From 2003–2012, domestic violence accounted for nearly a quarter of all violent victimizations."Many people think domestic violence is uncommon and it hardly ever exists anymore," Katie Ray-Jones, president of the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH) and the National Dating Abuse Helpline (NDAH), told

And even the stats we have are just for physical violence, and don't take verbal and emotional abuse into account.

When the waiter brings the menus, she makes fun of his selection.

She mocks him when he tells a story that might make him look good, and finishes his jokes for him.

Covert abuse is disguised by actions that appear normal, but it is clearly insidious and underhanded.

The abuser fosters an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability and unpredictability.

One man, a friend from childhood, told a story that seemed like a kind of slow emotional torture. Her wit was now more often than not turned on him, first as sarcastic jibes and then as outright abuse.