Paradoxically, when you think you have to settle, you attract men who you feel are just “good enough.” Get out of this vicious cycle and dig deep to find your “inner awesome” so you can get exactly what you want out of love in your forties.
I really should have known that women in their forties who used Match were probably going to have an uphill battle. To be fair, I constantly hear women my age say they don’t wish to consider dating men over 45 or 50. I’ve always said that I think the desire to want someone “active” is just code for saying you don’t want to date within your own age bracket.
Their mobile app home page is devoid of any face that looks older than 35. I received twice as many emails from guys from out of state on Match than I do on OKC. That’s “too old.” These women want someone vibrant and active. It’s one of those indefensible arguments often offered to justify someone’s own ambivalence and fear that comes with aging.
After looking far and wide, I discovered Lisa Copeland.
Lisa is a successful dating coach and an amazing woman, filled with positive energy and love.
Again, much like OKC, my views, winks and emails are mostly from men from other states or guys in the suburbs. All of this got me to thinking about so many men and women in their late thirties and older seem to refuse to even consider dating someone their own age. The following points are some of the benefits of dating someone over 35. They have similar frames of reference for things - Being able to quote “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” or reference the media meltdown that occurred when “Thirtysomething” aired a scene of two men in bed without having to explain why or how it was so controversial just makes conversation easier and helps people to bond.