blackenterprise.com“That’s just how men are.” A sentence that pretty much every woman who fears asking for what she wants, or who doesn’t even know what she deserves, says to excuse her boyfriend’s inexcusable acts.But it’s never just how “men” are—it’s how that’s not how you communicate with a woman.
A man should never criticize you purely for the purpose of being malicious.
If a man criticizes you harshly and constantly, ask yourself this: “Did he end it with a suggestion of how I could be better?
She threw it away when she started getting serious with the man who would one day be her husband. When I go on a first date, I tell myself the same thing: “People are worth knowing.” Some of the greatest men I’ve dated didn’t match the attributes on my original list.
He wasn’t the man who could check off all her precious boxes, but he was the one to whom she chose to say, “I do.”When you look at your list, how do you know if you’re being reasonable or if you’re being too picky? If I’d held onto my too-high ideals instead of saying yes, I would never have known them, or the things I learned about myself in our relationships. Which standards do you need to get rid of, and which are important to keep?
Dating in a church setting can be similar to that of being back in high school.