A pop-culture-and-tech-savvy millennial with liberal values and a strong attachment to her Islamic faith, she’s a hybrid of different identities. There was a lot of dialogue about relationships: How do you go about finding someone who is like you?
But then she discovered a group of like-minded friends on a tiny listserv called “Mipsterz” — Muslim Hipsters — and began to create a community of her own.* “The listserv started as a joke,” she says — but it soon became much more. ” A year later, those conversations led Mubeen to create the website Hipster Shaadi, its name playing off the Indian matrimonial site shaadi.com, a favorite platform of immigrant parents wanting to fix up their American children with nice Muslim prospects back home.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate.....