(*A note here: Of course, there are varying degrees of gravity -- a former fling may be less of a big deal than a serious relationship, and if we're talking about a recent ex-husband or ex-wife and your friend, well, then, we'll go out on a limb and say that perhaps you should reconsider your friendship unless there is an extremely unique circumstance.) If you've found yourself facing this situation as the person whose friend and ex are now dating, here are a few tips on how to handle yourself with style and grace: Have a support system handy: It's nice to ask one or two close friends to help you out.They can keep you posted on what they see and hear about this new relationship, as it's never fun to be the last to know.
By Susan Elliott for Your A big, looming question after the breakup seems to be, "Can we still be friends? There are several reasons for this, but first and foremost is that even after the most amicable breakup, the people involved need some time so they can work through their feelings and sift through the ruins of the relationship.
Even if it was not an emotional high-wire act, as many breakups are, there needs to be time apart to break the bond of "the couple." Each person needs to separate and go back to being an individual and lose the "couple" identity.
You see, a close friend of mine, let's call her...
um, Vanessa, is going through some serious drama-rama.
Each person needs to do their work and become an individual once again.