While I don't know that bus passes are something that most people concern themselves with this side of the last Clinton administration, the general sentiment hasn't changed: when you're dating, somebody should be footing the bill for both of you.At some point, we collectively decided that if we were going to put ourselves through the sex preamble we pretend is about getting to know one another, there should be a free movie, meal, yoga class, or some other type of monetary transaction involved, depending on what type of psychopath you're most inclined to date.When we're Once you're solidly in a relationship, I think there are certainly times when a paid-for date wouldn't go unappreciated, but after a certain point, it feels like you're handing money back and forth.
Interesting enough, financial concerns were cited as the number one reason why men today preferred going Dutch, however, many of those polled stated that they felt it was unfair, considering that the gap between male and female pay is shrinking, which means that women should be expected to contribute to a first date.
Now there are some social cues, which I would be glad to relinquish; helping with my seat or closing the door on my own vehicle.
However, as one responder pointed out, expecting the man to pay on a date makes sense because of that pesky ol' wage gap, which was definitely an interesting stance to take. Because it's awkward to be like, ' I would really like to go on that fancy date you asked me on, but I don't have money to pay my half or something.' But then once you hit past three dates, it's fair to start splitting the bill, unless it's a special occasion or something," says Sabrina, 27."First date? If a guy is definitely the one pursuing me and on the first date we're having a decent time and he tries to go dutch ...
I'm not gonna say it's a dealbreaker, but I pretty much look at him like he's a cheapskate. If the guy pays on date #1 and we agree to go out again, it's 99.9 percent guaranteed that I'll pick up the check on date #2.
I’m not against women paying for dates (full or partial), but I can’t see any good coming out of getting into the habit of “you pay your way, I’ll pay mine”.