Christian dating girlfriend not virgin


In light of these stats, it's not totally uncommon for sexually active people to find themselves dating someone who is abstinent.Despite our cultural belief that teens and college-aged people are ) do take chastity vows, sometimes out of religious or parental pressure.

At that time, I had already made a commitment to abstinence.

I never took an official pledge or anything, but I'd made a personal decision, based on my Christian beliefs, to not lose my virginity until marriage.

For a followup post visit, “I Kept My Virginity, But Not My Purity: Part Two”A few weeks ago I got a phone call from one of my girlfriends announcing that she got a boyfriend. Kissing standing up is totally different and not nearly as stimulating as kissing each other while lying on the couch. Sexual activity represents a deep and powerful level of intimacy and vulnerability.

I asked her what she intended to say to him about how they will protect their purity. I think when many people today discuss protecting one’s purity, they confuse “purity” with “virginity.” The value is placed on whether or not one is a virgin, not if they have compromised any other part of their body or mind to maintain their virginity. By God’s intention, the only relationship God designed to thrive on and sustain this level of intimacy, is a godly, devoted marriage between man and woman, husband and wife.

When I was 15, the boy I'd been secretly dating told me over AOL Instant Messenger that he liked me, but he didn't want to see me anymore.